About Me

Soooo many different “identities” to write about, so you can better grasp who I am, and why I write the things I do. Here are a few:

I am a Mother, a Daughter, a Step-Daughter (several times over), a Sister, a former Step-Sister, a Half Sister, a current and former Sister-in-Law, an Ex-wife, a girlfriend, a friend, and an acquaintance.

When I completed the StrengthsFinder assessment in 2011, my strengths were: Activator, Positivity, Ideation, Belief, and Strategic. 2017 update: After several years I retook the online assessment and had a few changes: Maximizer, Positivity, Activator, Strategic, & Connectedness.

VIA Institute on Character Assesment stated in 2017 that to be me means a combination of:
Gratitude, Fairness, Forgiveness, Social Intelligence, and Hope

I hiked the Grand Canyon rim to rim in July of 2017 – hardest and most rewarding thing I have EVER done! Giving birth was easier for my body than that hike!

I have worked in a movie theater, a drug store, on a game show, at a radio station, as a waitress, in a coffee shop, and as a temp.

I grew up in So Cal where I earned have my high school diploma. I moved to Nebraska for undergrad with a Bachelor of Science in Nonprofit, Theater and English, and I have a Master of Science in Leadership and Management, which I earned as a Mom with my six kids in tow.

I am so proud of my six children (and “adopted” countless more) and value their uniqueness.

I started a nonprofit corporation when I was in college, for which I have received honors and awards over its 20-year run including: L’Oreal Women of Worth, Volvo For Life Finalist, DirecTV Hometown Hero, and featured in local and national press including MTV, Nickelodeon, People Magazine, Family Circle Magazine and on The Big Ten Network.

I have lived below the poverty level and I currently live in the “middle class”.

I have experienced PTSD and relentless verbal abuse from a spouse/ex-spouse.

I have friends/know people that live in some of the most challenging communities in the United States, barely getting by. I have friends/know people who are well-known and millionaires.

I have a parent who has been incarcerated.

I ran a half marathon … once in 2014. Working towards a second because I want to put the 13.1 sticker on my car!

I have been on stage, television, radio, and in print media.

I am not a victim to any of my life experiences.

I believe in intelligent life on other planets and believe we will see/interact with “ET’s” in our lifetime.

I was baptized once as a child, and twice while I was in college. I have studied so many different religions, and practiced in several throughout my life. Today, I believe/know there is truth in each of them.

I may or may not have been sexually abused when I was very young – my memory is terrible, but I know boundaries were definitely crossed.

I spend most of my time with my kids, my sisters, my friends, my dogs, and my boyfriend.

I am really over-the-top when it comes to Christmas.

I have seen and experienced the impact of several mental and physical diseases and other life challenges on those I love including; HIV/AIDS, Cancer, MS, Sex Addiction, Drug Addiction, Alcoholism, Narcissism, Autism, Dyslexia, Cystic Fibrosis, Homelessness, Depression and Anxiety.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE snuggling with my kiddos!!

I have several family and friends who would identify themselves as LGBTQ, including a Son and Sister.

I believe we are infinite beings and this life is just one of many.

I am not a huge fan of the news, particularly because it is so negative and manipulating.

I don’t curse.

I am addicted to sugar – working on weaning myself off : /

I am growing to love pets more and more each day – I have three dogs and appreciate their souls the more time I spend with them.

I find great joy in helping others.

I have had one miscarriage.

I LoooVe watching Gaia TV.

I am worthy. I am strong. I am whole. I am exactly where I am suppose to be. I am love. I am doing my best. I am happy.

I live open to any and every possibility (or continue to do my best everyday). I find value in each experience (and yes, even the “bad ones” —might take a day or three). I find value in each person. #mytruth

Thank you for your interest in my blog!


Eva Nekovar-Payne, MSLM